Few days ago, I was sitting at Gate 23 at SFO, watching the departures board blink like a moody teenager as it blinked: delayed, delayed, delayed. Mercury in retrograde had not started yet (11/9/25) and I was already feeling the effects of its pre-shadow period-unexplainable glitches in travel, tech, and telephone. In addition to my disappointing flight status, my phone buzzed with one of my members’ tech snafu, and my husband texted, “Did you get my message? I have not heard from you.” (I hadn’t.)
I don’t map my life to the stars, but I do pay attention to patterns. They say:
“As above, so below.” There are coincidences I just can’t ignore.
Numerology says 2025 adds to 9—a year of completion. 2026 reduces to 1—fresh start energy. Whether or not you believe in astrology, numerology or cycles, endings and beginnings are part of every growth story. So, here’s my thought for you and invitation: before you sprint into a new nine-year chapter that begins in 2026, let’s go out with a Bang not a Whimper in 2025.
The Last Nine Years: What Theme Has Been Working You?
Think back to 2017–2025. What lesson kept popping up-getting in the way of your love life, promotion, or relationships? -that you knew if you didn’t deal with and address- it was going to keep you standing exactly where you have always been.
- Receiving without over giving to exhaustion first.
- Letting go of guilt or shame– because you did nothing wrong.
- Asking for help and letting it be easy.
- Trusting your voice instead of hiding behind someone else’s spotlight.
- Shifting from heroic doer to builder of builders.
If that’s has been your lesson plan, 2025 is the time to Ace the final, become certified, and embed it into the new you for 2026. As a caveat, integration usually requires release.
Just as you realized your theme, learned your lesson, and got passed your
final exam, you must create space for it to exist within you, clearly and
without conflict.
So, what are you going to release to allow your: “learned theme” to live? If you are no longer going to be an over giver and want reciprocity in your relationships, you can no longer be in a relationship where you are doing all the giving. If you are moving to builder of builders, how can you keep on being chief everything officer and doing, fixing, jumping in, rescuing your employees, and not allowing them to fail, learning trial and error, and building their own confidence?
I have created a quick jump start exercise to get you thinking. I call it the Reflection of the Five Rs:
Take 15 quiet minutes with your coffee and a clean page. Scan these five areas and circle what’s asking to be let go:
1. Roles – Which hats fit beautifully then but pinch now? (The interim COO role you never took off or the account management of your top 5 accounts)
2. Relationships – Which are reciprocal, and which quietly rely on you to over function, or keep you in the “appeasing” state and keeping small?
3. Rules – What “should” keep you safe but now keeps you small and it feels a bit too hovering? (“I should be the fixer.”)
4. Routines – Meetings, habits, networking events, commitments, and processes that you have been showing up for. You know, the ones that deep down inside, you know they are draining your energy, you do out of obligation, and they don’t really fill your sales funnel, your relationship needs, and your heart.
5. Roadblocks (Beliefs) – Stories like “I’m not ready,” “They’ll be upset,” “I need to prove it first,” “I can’t grow as big as X?”
Quick Check mate: if it requires you to stay small, silent, or perpetually grateful, it’s not in line for the new YOU.
Here are a few examples I have witnessed with my clients and how you can rewrite the play book for your benefit:
1) The Co-Founder Drift
Pattern: You’re carrying BD, strategy, finance, and accounts. Your partner is an IC whose value is real—but different from yours. Resentment is creeping in.
Reset Script: “Over the past year my scope moved to revenue, strategy, and finance. That’s what business needs. Your strengths shine in product and delivery. Can we realign roles and comp to reflect today’s value? I’ll hold CEO and P&L, your own product with clear innovation targets. Let’s set 90-day KPIs and review quarterly.”
Translation: Name the truth, propose a structure, anchor in outcomes. Options include redefining roles, adjusting comp/equity, or transitioning a partner to an advisory seat. Clarity is kindness.
2) The One-Way Friendship
Pattern: You love this person. And the current rhythm requires you to carry the emotional labor, logistics, and repair.
Reset Script: “I care about us. I’m rebalancing a few commitments this year so I can show up with quality. Here’s what I can offer—monthly catchups and shared plans. If that doesn’t fit for you, I understand and will care for you from a different distance.”
Translation: Boundaries protect love. You’re not punishing; you’re choosing integrity with your energy.
Whether you believe in numerology, this exercise has some weight and important areas of reflection. This is more than a New Year’s Eve resolution. It is to help you get into the right mindset, stop feeling stuck, and to feel empowered. I want you to dream big and achieve that big dream without carrying and dragging that baggage. That baggage of habits, people, processes, and time commitments that drag you down and prevent you from accomplishing what you set out to do. Trust me, I know and I am a Big Fan.
If you want more clarity on identifying your 9 year theme, the areas you need to redefine, release or adjust, and accountability to stay committed to your 2026 new you, then let’s jump on a complimentary call and let’s put it in writing.
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